TO my sisters — it’s time we came together. I feel that lately we’ve turned on each other and really lost our way.
I’m over reading and hearing about women bitching, shaming and calling each other names, especially online.It shouldn’t matter who you are, where you come from, what you do or what you wear.
At the end of the day, we’re in a sisterhood and we need to stick together. It might sound clichéd, but it’s reality!
I’m absolutely guttered by the comments I read online these days. Women are constantly slagging on one another.
This doesn’t apply to everyone and of course there are many sisters out there who are supporting and uplifting, but the issue is real and we need to do something about it.
I want to focus on Kim Kardashian.
Some of you are rolling your eyes and screaming at me to shut up about her but her nude selfies have highlighted this important issue.
The amount of criticism she has copped online is what I have a problem with, and it’s where I think the sisterhood has broken down.
She was slammed — called out for being a bad mother, a terrible role model and a ‘piece of shit human being’ (their words not mine.)
All because she got her bits out and posted them around the world.
Women were body shaming her and asking her to put it away, telling her she was sending the wrong message to our sisters.
This is where I think we got it wrong.
Kim has every right to share pictures of herself in the nude. She has worked hard for her body, she is proud and I am totally OK with that. It is her body after all.
To be totally honest with you, if I looked like her I’d do the same. She loves herself and that is what I find empowering.
Ultimately, what I might find empowering is not necessarily what other find empowering and that should be OK.
I am all for other women spreading positive body messages and when I see Kim and her confidence I think ‘Hell yeah, she’s got it.’
Yes, other sisters will disagree. But that’s my point — this is totally fine and we should support each other in our beliefs.
Yet sisters from all around the world (my friends included) went after her with their pitchforks and that’s what I find really disheartening.
Just because we have a differing opinion to someone else, doesn’t mean we have to go out of our way to shame him or her.
I sat on this column for a couple of weeks, unsure whether to publish it or not. But I had to.
For me it isn’t really about Kim’s nude selfie, it’s about the sisterhood and how we reacted. She was called a whore, slut, bad mother and role model by sisters all because she posted a nude selfie.
Kim is famous for a sex tape she made 13 years ago, but why are we still slamming her today for it? And what has that got to do with her parenting skills?
The disappointing aspect was that women were so quick to judge and shame her.
I could make the point about us all having a past and how people can all change, but truthfully that shouldn’t matter.
Just because her boobs and butt are being plastered all over your news feed doesn’t give you the right to put her down or call her out.
Why can’t we be more supportive of one another?
One of my friends summed it up when I asked her about it:
“I’m numb to it now, it certainly doesn’t shock me — it’s more a case of ‘meh it’s another Kim nude.’ By the same token though I don’t care, it’s her choice, it’s her body, and it’s her marketing strategy or whatever.
“I’m not going to shame her, call her names, and say she is a bad mother or role model, because I think that’s the wrong message to send to other women as well.
The message we should be sending is it’s HER body, let HER make the decisions for it, just because SHE does it doesn’t mean it should be the norm, doesn’t mean that the only way to feel “empowered” is to strip naked on social media, it doesn’t mean that every young girl growing up now is going to want to make sex tapes etc. to be like her.
“Give future generations and other women more credit, we can admire different qualities from different women even if we don’t agree with them as a whole. I guess I’m over the abuse anyone cops on social media from a distant keyboard warrior because they have dared to do something someone else doesn’t agree with.”
I couldn’t have summed it up better myself. So from one sister to another, stop the bitchiness and the hate. Let’s support, love and believe in each other.
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