I MENTIONED TO MY FRIENDS I WANTED A SECOND HAND WEDDING DRESS AND THEY LOST THEIR MINDS.

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One random Tuesday I drove past my local vinnies and saw in the window the cutest vintage looking wedding dress that was silk with long sleeves, the mannequin was on an angle to reveal the amazing back that hung low with gorgeous pearls hanging from it to add extra detail it was straight out of The Great Gatsby.

It was old hollywood glam and completely unique, not something you would come across in cosmo bride.
Full disclosure I am not engaged even though I am in a long term relationship its not something I really think about.
I wasn’t one of those girls who grew up dreaming of their wedding day, in fact I had until this day never even thought of what kind of dress I would want.

There was something about this dress though that made me keep thinking about it, Could I go and buy it just in case?
I feel like that crosses the cray cray line a little too much for my liking but it did make me think that if or when I get engaged that I am sure there are so many gorgeous gowns in op shops all over Australia just waiting to be worn.

I have always been an avid op shopper and so are some of my friends but it does seem to divide people my friend said she was scared to op shop because she didn’t know if someone had died in those clothes. I told her I that I think that I’m pretty safe in my Country Road leopard print top, she still isn’t convinced, another one said she hates the smell of op shops.

Then there are my fellow op shopper friends like my friend Helen who will spend hours with me scouring every nook and cranny and share my joy in a great find and the irony is she works in fashion!

So when I told my girlfriends about the dream dress I was shocked at their reaction.

Collectively they all agreed that you cannot wear a second hand wedding dress!

Why I asked,

They all agreed it was a bad omen, at that time I pointed out it was only last week that one of them had opened a beach umbrella inside and shrugged it off saying she didn’t believe in that “stuff”.

They all went in strong and said that there is no way any of them would wear a second hand wedding dress, because according to them it was cursed because the bride obviously got divorced because she isn’t keeping the dress.

Later on I thought about this flawed logic, I’m sure there are brides out there who are still happily married and maybe just want to free up wardrobe space or maybe it doesn’t fit them anymore or maybe they just want someone else to enjoy it, I mean you spend so much money for just one wear.

I also thought about how ridiculous this is! Imagine someone going to a divorce lawyer and writing down that the reason for the divorce was that she wore a second hand dress.

While we are pointing out flaws with this theory I know of a girl who married in the dress her mum wore when she she married her dad and they got divorced and she still wore her mums dress is this a weird exception to the rule?

I also wondered are people out there buying them or was there a secret storage room in every op shop where all the unwanted dresses are put because no-one will buy them?

Even the one of the biggest fashion icons of our generation Carrie Bradshaw hasn’t been able to turn this into a trend after choosing in the end to marry big in a “vintage” wedding suit.

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So why can’t we wear something old why does it need to be something new?

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